This past week I ran into a mate of mine who I had not seen in some considerable time.

It was good to see him again, at least for a little while.

Then I remembered why I stopped associating with him in the 1st place.

The man has a giant heart, and you cannot avoid loving him.

Sadly , also he is a constant whiner. He is always going on about how he does not make enough money with his job, and how things never appear to go right for him in life. Regardless of what you are saying to him there's no shaking his loser mantality. He has selected to be the victim in life, and to be quite fair I believe he enjoys it. It's not sufficient for him to mope and whinge about his very own life, he does his best to bring the people around him down too. He asked me how my 'little net business' was going.

Remember it has been a long time since we had spoken last. This man was truly upset over my success. He gave a grunt and declared "Well good luck.". What he meant was 'I hope you fall flat on your face and have to return to your last job so I should feel happier about who I am'. He's a loser as he projects nothing except negative energy into his very own life, and he wants everybody around him fail and be sad alongside him. I spent merely a couple more mins talking with him, then told him I had to run. I do wish him the best, but I am actually not going to spend my time letting him sap the life out of me with his pity party no-hoper mentaility. There are lots of positive, success-minded folks for me to hang with and this is where I wish to spend my time. There's a lesson to all this, and here it is. Think about the most successful person you know. For our purposes today, let's outline success as finance and emotional wealth. This is going to be somebody you know on a private level, and not a personality you have read about in your fave business or glamour mag. Now, ask who this highly productive individual associates with. Probabilities are the group of people you identify with this query will not be some lazy, negative, self-pity freaks.

Now try the same excercise with the least successful individual you know. The sort of folks we surround ourselves with will have an extreme effect on our thought patterns. Since it's safe to claim our fact starts with our thoughts, the value of our private associations can barely be overstated. To spend the bulk of our time around others who offer us doubt and discouragement is to restrict ourselves to a forbidding shade of our total potential. Or, by mingling with people who project confidence and optimism, we are bound to absorb a perspective of determination and determination.

It's good practice to socialise with people who reflect our desires. Folks who need to whine and moan about how biased life is, and how they just can't can not 'get a break' are bad company. Particularly when these folks wish to project their distress and negativity onto you.